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Getting Rid of Attachments

Why do people fight?

Believe it or not, I believe that most people honestly want to be good. Why do I say this?

If you look at most world religions you find a common theme of being nice and genuine to one another. How to avoid the problems that could really hurt you and have a life meaningful to one another.

Then why all the hatred, violence and crime?

The real answer is that is that people are attached. The attachment comes from an emotional connection between them and the object and person, place or thing.

People fight for land, rights, possessions, honor, and respect.

Whatever the reason, people who start or wish to fight it is in respect to the emotional response they have  towards what they are attached to.

So what does that mean for you?

Using our minds, we can quickly determine the attachment our opponent may have. It could either be they feel dishonored, disrespected, or even violated in some way. Whatever the reason, they have an emotional response to the situation.

If you can determine the reason for their emotional response, you have the opportunity to circumvent the fight. You can ‘read’ your opponent and quickly understand why they are choosing to have a beef with you.

Be it money, ego, or possessions, these things are immaterial. They can be replaced. If you can give them away to circumvent the situation, it is in your best interest to do so. Having this mind of unattachment towards items, or things allow you to have a clear head and stable mental environment to keep yourself safe.

As always, fighting should be our last option, not our first!

Sijo Jeff Barnes

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Tonight we focused on eye-hand coordination drills for the kids and followed up with some great sparring drills. The adults warmed up to a great workout and finished with more sparring drills and actual sparring. Fun was had by all.

Today’s post will be a short one. As I sip my coffee and getting ready to head to my first meeting of the day, I took a look around. One thing that struck me was the room that I am sitting in.

What would be the reason that someone would want to do business with me? How does the customer feel about my business when they walk in the door?

Is my business welcoming?

Are they enticed to buy?

Do I have an environment that is conducive to attract and enable buyers to spend money with me?

One of the major improvements I did to my business is totally renovate it over the holiday break. I spent some time and money to make the space feel more open and welcoming to my perspective clients. I specifically focused on customer satisfaction and comfort. The key to my business is satisfaction and how the customer feels as I provide my service. I added free premiums such as providing high end coffee and cappuccinos. I also provide free wireless Internet to make their visit inviting and comfortable.

While this model won’t work for every business, you can spend some time looking at your business from the customer perspective. Evaluate what small things you can do to make their visit as welcoming as possible. I believe it to be a ‘visual hug’ where I provide an environment that says “I want you as my customer.”